• Ajibola Ayomide


Written by- Aboderin Adeola, Girl Advocate

I am Camilla, the only female child amidst three male siblings.Being given birth to into a family full of boys was very challenging. My mother who upheld the esteemed principles of education passed away and ever since then, things changed drastically for me cause my father saw no reason in sending me to school anymore,he stopped me from going to school with bold claims that I can't amount to anything tangible and reasonable even with the aid of a standard education, I began to wonder why he came about that assumption and he bolted out the answer to my questions as to why he wouldn't allow me further in my education was that I'm a FEMALE CHILD and core responsibility ends up with playing the role of a wife, a mother and a custodian of my kitchen....That's saddening.

On the other hand, my brothers attended prestigious schools and I was subjected to carrying a heavy burden of farm and house work, this is a preferential treatment of male children and the denial of access to education opportunity for me.

I was so bitter that I allowed depression set in and I began to lose hope about life entirely, wild questions ran through my mind craving for a soothing answer but I was all alone in my world cause there was no one to share my pains with. I became a crazy nerve wrecker, like a wayward firecracker, I don't stop to dream about how I can be exposed to the illuminations of education,i hunger and thirst for education but I wasn't filled...That was how terrible it was!

Worse became worst, Daddy handed me over to Alhaji sheriff after a marriage proposal at the age of seventeen...It was then I was introduced to a polygamous family as I was the youngest among his eight wives.

I was left with no choice but to comply cause I was seen as feeble and fragile but I know I'm not. Camilla isn't a weakling but a voiceless soul who's got no one to come to her aid.

My life became reckless, full of woes and regrets,my dreams, hopes and aspirations became shattered right in my face due to lack of education to stand and defend my right to quality education and freedom from forceful marriage

Up till this moment, I battle with depression cause I continually shut everyone out of my life including my own family. The pain remains fresh and the scar isn't temporary.

I shared my story because I crave for a change in my society, female children should be given equal access to education and early marriage should be outlawed.

Let us put aside every reason why this resolution can't work but focus on that ONE reason why it should work



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