• Victoria Olanrewaju Benedict


Written by~ Victoria Olanrewaju Benedict, Girls Advocate.

The most common type of abuse is Sexual abuse, followed by physical abuse and the rest. Not many people know about psychological abuse even though it is being levied on them.

Psychological abuse, often called emotional abuse, is any kind of abuse that is psychological rather than physical in nature. It can include anything from verbal abuse and constant criticism to more subtle tactics such as intimidation, manipulation, and refusal to ever be pleased. Psychological abuse is typically characterized by distorting someone’s sense of reality. It is also called Gaslighting.

Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which a person or a group covertly sows seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or group, making them question their own memory, perception, or judgment, often evoking in them cognitive dissonance and other changes including low self-esteem.

Psychological abuse is caused by many things, factors arising from bad parenting. Many abusing parents had bad experiences as children and tend to do likewise to their kids, stress; people easily loose temper and patience when under stress and they tend to vent it out on innocent people, especially women and girls.

It has had various impacts on people, even though it might not be noticed and this is one of the reasons why people think physical abuse is more damaging. People believe more in what they can see than what they don't. They can see the scars of physical abuse on your body but not the painful and destructive effects that psychological abuse can cause, be it short or long-term effects. Survivors are often plagued by low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, and feelings of helplessness.

According to Origins, emotional and psychological abuse may not leave physical marks, but they can be just as destructive as physical abuse, leading to anxiety, depression, and addiction. Like physical abuse, they are primarily a means of control and a way for the abuser to feel superior.

Learning resilience is one of the ways to deal with any type of abuse. You also need a bulletproof jacket, so that when anyone abuses you, either emotionally, physically or even psychologically, you must be able to receive these things as bullets, but your ability to withstand the pressure and keep your head high will build up your confidence and do great exploits.

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